Rebecca discusses her relationship with her son and his family

A birth mom describes her decision to choose an open adoption and her relationship with her son's family

Rebecca chose adoption with The Cradle Adoption Agency for her son

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I’m Rebecca Grey, I’m 29, I placed my son 8 years ago through The Cradle.

I just did a birthmother’s panel, and they wanted to know, you know, all of the adoptive parents wanted to know what it was about the profiles that made us choose them. And I fully believe that there’s just something there. Because I was just flipping through these books, and I don’t know what it is that caught my eye. So it’s like, I just saw it, and I was like, this is the family, and then after we met, and we even visited their [house]...they have the same knick knacks, the same china, I mean everything just kind of fell into place and it’s like, this is the right family.

We stayed in contact and the adoptive mom went with me to a few doctor’s appointments. They were both there at the hospital when my son was born. The mom was actually in the delivery room with me.

So I had him April 26 of 2002. And it’s been great, I mean, I can go down and see him anytime that I want. I’ve always been a part of his life. When I get back to my car tonight I can call and be like, “hey I’m coming down” and they’d be like “great!” He’s gonna be I think going into second grade? Second or third grade. He plays all types of sports and he’s really good at them. I will go down and try to play baseball with him and it actually hurts because he’s gotten so good at it.

What a awesome life he has. He’s got two parents, he never has to want anything, you know. He’ll be able to go to college without struggling like his birthfather and I had to do. For the most part he’s always smiling every time I see him. And it’s just like, “god, I wish I had that childhood.”

But if he ever asks any questions, I’m going to tell him why. And it was never because I didn’t love him, it was never because I didn’t want him. So I mean I think after he asks me questions and stuff like that, I really don’t think that he’s going to resent me. I think he’s really going to understand and I think he’s gonna be happy because, I mean, where he’s at, they’re in a really nice house and...kid’s got everything.

Rebecca, a birth mother, discusses her relationship with her son and his family

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The adoptive mom, she went with me to a few doctors’ appointments, they were both there at the hospital when my son was born. The mom was actually in the delivery room with me.

So I had him April 26 of 2002. And it’s been great, I mean, I can go down and see him anytime that I want. I’ve always been a part of his life. When I get back to my car tonight I can call and be like, “hey I’m coming down” and they’d be like “great!” He’s gonna be I think going into second grade? Second or third grade. He plays all types of sports and he’s really good at them. I will go down and try to play baseball with him and it actually hurts because he’s gotten so good at it.

What a awesome life he has. He’s got two parents, he never has to want anything, you know. He’ll be able to go to college without struggling like his birthfather and I had to do.