We met on our first day of graduate school when Amy noticed what a sweet smile Zach had and Zach became smitten with Amy’s cute northern Wisconsin accent. We quickly became good friends and were amazed at how much we enjoyed being with each other. It didn’t matter if we were in the library studying or laughing at each other’s moves in a swing dance class – if we were together, we were having fun!
After seven years of marriage, we find that our time together is spent with the same laughter and ease as when we first met. The realization that we won't be able to have biological children has been one of the most difficult things we've faced as a couple, but we've been able to grieve our loss and have wholly embraced forming our family through adoption. Three of Amy's cousins were adopted and to us it's simply another way to start a family. From grandparents to aunts, uncles and plenty of cousins, our adopted child will definitely have no shortage of love and support!
About Zach, by Amy
“Zach has a wonderful ability to take things in stride, and very rarely do I see him frustrated or upset. Shortly after we started dating, we decided to go downhill skiing together. It was Zach’s first time skiing and although I tried my best to teach him, he ended up breaking his thumb on the very last run. But to my surprise, he was more concerned about not wanting to ruin our date than he was about injuring himself!
I feel very lucky to have Zach for a husband and am confident our children will be blessed to have him for a father. I love how caring and patient he is with our nieces and nephews and how much he looks forward to spending time with them, whether he’s teaching them how to bowl, helping them read a book, or just goofing around.”
About Amy, by Zach
“Amy is from a small town in northern Wisconsin where her family (and her heart!) still reside. She has a wonderfully sweet and warm personality and cares deeply about her family. I’m sure if you asked our nieces they would name Amy as one of their favorite aunts – always willing to give them her time and attention whether it’s reading a book, playing a game, or helping them learn prayers at church. Amy has also turned a passion for tennis into a hobby as a tennis instructor, where I have seen firsthand her enjoyment and ability to teach children. I know in my heart that Amy will be a great mother and will be wonderful at helping our children gain confidence in their talents and abilities as they grow older.”
Our Life and Values
Our house is located in a small, quiet neighborhood in a Northern Chicago suburb where we thought it would be ideal to raise a family. We often hear children playing outside at one of the nearby parks or yelling, “Hi Heidi!” to our dog as they bike past our backyard. Although both of us work as scientists and spend the majority of our day doing research at a nearby company, in our free time you’ll most likely find us outdoors on a bike ride together or, depending on the season, either hiking or snowshoeing with Heidi!
We feel that spending time together as a family is one of the most important things we can do for our child. Both of us grew up with plenty of siblings and loving parents who provided us with a lot of support by always making time for us, and we've dreamed of being able to give our children that same security and love. To help accomplish this, Amy plans on initially taking a leave of absence from work before returning part-time. The company we work at has a day care facility on site that many of our co-workers use and highly recommend. For those days when both of us are at work, we’ll know that our child is in a place we trust and can visit often during the day.
We also hope to give our child a good foundation for a lifetime relationship with God. We were both raised in the Catholic faith and participate in weekly church services. Being able to share our faith with each other has brought us closer together, and we would feel even more blessed to be able to share our faith and love with a child.
In addition to faith, we’ve placed a great deal of value on education and learning in our lives and would like to instill this ethic in our children. To us, a love of learning means growing up excited about asking questions and exploring new ideas. We're excited to see what passions our child will pursue and will always be more than willing to offer support and encouragement in whatever way we can.
We consider ourselves blessed to be together, but our family still feels incomplete. We've both dreamed of having a house full of children and are excited about making this dream come true through adoption! Open adoption is very appealing to us and we would welcome any level of openness in our relationship with you. We realize you may be uncertain about how you would like this relationship to look and we want you to know that we will be respectful of your wishes. Our hope is to work out the details together as adoptive and birth parents who are keeping their child’s best interests always at heart.
With kind thoughts and best wishes,