So why choose us? We’re not perfect parents. No one is. Since becoming parents a little over two years ago, when our biological daughter, Grace, was born, we have learned just how challenging it can be. But we love it and can’t wait to become parents to another little boy or girl. Our house has a lot of love and a lot of laughter, but there are also occasional disagreements and stressful moments. We know that we are extremely lucky to have a marriage that is strong. We have a partnership that helps us to support each other, no matter the obstacle. We also have a large network of family and friends who we can always rely on. Matt comes from a big family, with eight brothers and sisters. Laura’s immediate family is much smaller but she has lots of aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents, all in Chicago. And family means everything to us. Thank you for taking the time to learn more about our family while you make a very difficult decision.
MATT & LAURA’S STORY
We’ve been married for almost five years, but we started out as close friends almost nine years ago. We met in law school and got to know each other by hanging out, going to movies, and exploring restaurants around Chicago.
When Matt finally got up the courage to let Laura know he wanted to be more than friends, Laura realized that everything she’d been looking for in a relationship had been right under her nose for years.
After our second date, Laura knew that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with Matt. Just three months after we started dating, we moved in together. Just three months after that, we got engaged and were married a year later.
Though we love to travel and explore new places, since becoming parents, most of our time is now spent either at home or at a park where Grace can run around. We have dinner together as a family every night and we trade-off who cooks so that neither of us gets tired of it. We also have weekly visits from each of our parents, who all live nearby. We love to be outdoors, so we take a lot of hikes in the forest preserve across the street from our house. When the weather is nice, we also walk or ride bikes to the farmer’s market at the local high school.
We always knew we wanted to have children and even before we were married, we talked about adopting children in the future. Matt’s cousin was adopted, and we both grew up with close friends who were either adopted themselves or had siblings who had been adopted. When we first started learning about The Cradle, Matt’s sister shared with us that two of her friends had made adoption plans for their unplanned pregnancies through The Cradle and both had good experiences. Although we could have more biological children, due to complications following Grace’s birth, it would be a risk to Laura’s health, so we have decided now is the right time to look to adoption to continue growing our family.
We are also really excited about becoming a multicultural family. Our extended family and close friends are very racially diverse and it has been so rewarding to make all of their different cultural backgrounds part of our lives.
OUR FAITH AND VALUES
Our parents come from several different religious backgrounds, but we don’t belong to any one church or temple. With our families, we celebrate most of the major Jewish and Christian holidays. Our favorite holidays, which we always host at our house, are Thanksgiving and Passover.
We love Thanksgiving because it’s all about food and eating together as a family - we always make at least one new dish (last year it was cauliflower and raddichio salad with shaved parmesan), and then there’s the classics: a big turkey, Laura’s mom’s sweet potatoes and apples, and of course the traditional green bean casserole, which is Matt’s brother’s favorite. During Passover we celebrate with a “freedom seder” which is a twist on the traditional big meal with singing and poems that remind us of the struggles for freedom that have been shared by different cultures - the Jews, African-Americans, and others around the world.
Even though we don’t subscribe to a particular religion, we have very strong values. We think honesty and communication are incredibly important. We also feel very strongly about equality and diversity. It is important to us that our children are raised to believe that no race or gender is better than the other, and that there is a big world out there with lots of cultures who all have something interesting to contribute. We’ve both traveled extensively and learned that no matter how different a place is, people everywhere share the same desire to be respected and understood.
Thank you for taking the time to give us a look.