Unconditional love, openness, and stability
Some of the things most important to us are love, openness, encouragement, stability, security, and the opportunity for education. Unconditional love is perhaps the greatest thing we can give our child (or children – we’re open to twins!). No matter what happens, no matter what ups and downs life may bring, our child will have no doubt that he is surrounded by love.
Good communication keeps our relationship strong. We can tell each other anything, no matter how big or small, and we will encourage our child to feel comfortable doing the same. We look forward to developing a relationship where all of us—you, our child, and us—will be comfortable sharing with each other. Part of that sharing means being open about the adoption, making sure our child knows as much as possible about his birth family, and staying in touch with you in a way that is comfortable for everyone.
As our child grows and develops a sense of who he or she is, our home will provide a place to feel cared for, feel safe, and be encouraged to be herself and discover hidden talents. It is a loving and positive environment that allows each of us to explore, from new hobbies to inner feelings. It is also a key place for developing good habits, such as respect for others, polite manners, eating well, and getting exercise so that we can live long, healthy lives together.
We have a great support network, including family and friends who have adopted or were adopted themselves—including Margo’s mom, who was adopted—and they’re all so excited for us to become parents through adoption.
Work and play
Margo is a professional classical pianist and works at a design school downtown. Music will be a part of our child’s life, whether listening at home, taking lessons (maybe you’ll attend a recital!), or going to concerts. She also has a passion for cooking and loves trying new dishes. Maybe we can have a potluck dinner together and swap our favorite recipes? Joel works with technology and in his spare time enjoys designing websites (like for where we take pottery classes and for Margo’s brother’s elder care business), and while Margo cooks, Joel cleans the condo.
We enjoy learning new things (like throwing pottery) and keeping our brains young (by being in a book club), and whether watching movies, going to concerts or the theater, or just making dinner—all things we’ll do with our child—we have a great time with each other. We always have fun traveling, be it a weekend getaway, road-tripping across the country, or going abroad. Sometimes we enjoy just hanging out and being silly (check out our photos!).
From the moment I met Margo, I could tell she was amazing. Just look at that smile! She is so much fun and really easy to talk to. She is a very thoughtful person, great communicator, and sharp thinker. Recently, a friend experienced a life-or-death crisis, and she was able to care for him and help coordinate with his family without dropping anything of her own at work or in her life. I know she’ll bring that same thoughtfulness, dedication, and compassion to the raising of our child.
Margo is thrilled at the thought of becoming a mom. I know she’ll be an incredible one. She’s loving, caring, tender, and encouraging, and she loves playing around with kids—from making funny faces with 10-year-old cousin Tanner to starting the Long-Haired Girls Club with 4-year-old cousin Sophie. She’s my best friend in the world. Man, did I get lucky!
Joel’s one of the greatest people I know. He loves to make puns and is quick witted, and he’s a very gentle, kind, and thoughtful person. He’s no stranger to helping a woman with her packages or making dinner (without being asked!) when I’m sick. Whenever there are kids around, he plays with them and makes them forget they’re surrounded by adults.
Joel is really excited to be a father! Every time we do something fun like go to the beach or watch an animated film like Jungle Book he says, “I can’t wait to do this with our kid!” I can tell by the way he is with our nieces and nephew and other kids that our child’s happiness and well-being will be a top priority in his life.
We have been together over eight years now, and I still marvel that I found my Prince Charming!
The people we love and the place we call home
Most of Margo’s family is within 45 minutes of our home, but we also have family around the country in places interesting to visit. We each have a younger sibling, plus 2 nieces and a nephew on Joel’s side. Joel’s parents are in North Carolina, Margo’s mom is in Texas, and Margo’s dad splits his time between nearby Indiana and Florida. We see everyone several times throughout the year for holidays, birthdays, and reunions.
We currently live on the north side of Chicago in a bright, sunny, spacious condo with lots of room to play inside and out. Our neighborhood is very diverse, with people from all over the world. Sandcastles and waves await us at the beach just a short walk from here, with many playgrounds and parks along the way.
We are excited to encourage our child to discover the wonders of the world, try new things, and explore new places. Family-friendly concerts and theater programs will be a part of our family’s cultural life. We’ll carry on Joel’s family’s tradition of reading together after dinner from books like Little House on the Prairie. Margo’s Jewish background provides a rich heritage of holidays, music, food, and fun.
We both have jobs that would allow us to work from home a few days a week. If we need extra help, Margo’s aunt has offered to help out as needed (and she has tons of experience with child care).
No matter what activities we do together, one thing is absolutely certain: Our child will have unconditional love and the best upbringing we can provide, with a secure, comfortable home and a family and community of people (which includes you!) that are loving, caring, and generous. We look forward to meeting you and getting to know you!