Hello!

Carl and Kevin welcome you to a brief look into our lives as we share why we are so excited to become parents!  We are both absolutely committed to each other, and are committed to our long-standing desire to raise a child of our own. We are grateful for adoption because it gives us the opportunity to fulfill our dream of becoming parents. We promise to provide unconditional and everlasting love, support and the tools needed to ensure our baby leads a happy, healthy, and fulfilled life.

We cannot imagine what you are going through right now, but we suspect this may be a tough, emotional, and vulnerable time for you so we want to thank you for taking the time to read about us.  We sincerely wish you a very happy and healthy future and hope the information that follows is helpful in your search - and look forward to meeting with you soon!

I have firsthand experience as an adoptee. My journey growing up is a hard one to follow because I was moved from place to place so often. My biological mother had struggles of her own and left me and my siblings at the babysitter's one day and didn't return. My 5 siblings and I were separated and sent to live in different foster homes. After the first foster family I went to live with a relative, and then another relative, and another relative. To make a long story short; I ended up living in about 10 different places in 3 different states by the age of 7.  I was finally adopted at the age of 15 by my Aunt. I know firsthand how difficult growing up adopted can be and I am dedicated to becoming a forever father and providing a secure and unconditionally loving family for the child I am blessed to parent. I am confident that both Kevin and I will be able to help guide a child through various childhood and adolescent challenges over the years.
 

About Carl 

I have firsthand experience as an adoptee. My journey growing up is a hard one to follow because I was moved from place to place so often. My biological mother had struggles of her own and left me and my siblings at the babysitter's one day and didn't return. My 5 siblings and I were separated and sent to live in different foster homes. After the first foster family I went to live with a relative, and then another relative, and another relative. To make a long story short; I ended up living in about 10 different places in 3 different states by the age of 7.  I was finally adopted at the age of 15 by my Aunt. I know firsthand how difficult growing up adopted can be and I am dedicated to becoming a forever father and providing a secure and unconditionally loving family for the child I am blessed to parent. I am confident that both Kevin and I will be able to help guide a child through various childhood and adolescent challenges over the years.

About Kevin 

I have been fortunate to grow up with a very close, loving family.  I grew up with two brothers and a sister – two of which were born when I was a teenager - giving me the opportunity to babysit and watch them grow.  I also have a close relationship with extended family - spending many fun summers together at my Grandparent's lake cottage with cousins – a couple of whom happened to have been adopted.  Cousin Susan grew up not knowing her birth Father and recently got in touch with him - Susan was incredibly excited to have made this connection, finally - and has mentioned she wishes she would have known him all along.  My experiences helping care for young children and the joys of seeing the first-hand benefits of adoption have convinced me that adoption is the right option for our family.

Families

We both believe connections to immediate and extended family are extremely important in the raising of a child.  We know that we'll learn a lot from the relatives who have already raised children and will grow along with the relatives who are just getting started with children.  We're excited to know our child will have other kids in the family to play with who are close to the same age.

We're fortunate to have Carl's parents and brother living close by and get to see them weekly.  Carl's mom is excited to get to bond with an infant grandchild - something she missed out on with Carl since he was adopted at a later age. We frequently travel to or are visited by members of the family living further from us.  Kevin's parents in Arizona are equally excited for a grandchild - particularly as they are retiring and have lots of free time.  Our family includes several young children; the youngest being Kataleya who is just over two years old.

Friends

In addition to our close-knit family, we are privileged to have an extremely diverse set of close friends from various sources - high school, college and work.  We enjoy getting together regularly with the Chicago crew - cooking, grilling at the beach, game nights, going out to a restaurant; or when were able to convince them, camping or traveling. 

We have several friends with young children, and are very hopeful that some of the other couples will be joining us with children of their own soon.  We are proud of the fact our friends come from a variety of places and races  and feel their varied life experiences serve to make us a better rounded, more tolerant family. Exposing our child to many different cultures, languages, music, food, dance, and travel will show them that everyone is different and beautiful in their own way.

Open Adoption

Both our families understand the importance of accepting and loving adopted children as our own.  Because of our experiences with adoption, we understand the importance of an open relationship between a child and their birth parents. We also recognize that you may have other commitments and responsibilities which may alter your level of involvement over time.  We are committed to supporting and nurturing our relationship with you throughout different stages in your life in whatever form is most comfortable for you.  We plan to always be completely open with our child about who they are and where they're from.

Despite our very different personalities we both have similar dreams, morals and goals. We believe in working hard and playing hard and want to help our children dream big! We plan on forever supporting them as they reach for the stars.

Being a mixed race, same sex couple we fully understand there are unique challenges in our future when it comes to raising a child; however, we believe that having built a strong sense of who we are in spite of being different is going to be one of our strengths when it comes to parenting - giving us an added perspective on life and providing us with the strength it takes to withstand life's difficult moments. We fully intend to teach our child that racial, cultural and other uniqueness is a positive thing!  We are blessed to have family and friends from multiple racial, cultural and religious backgrounds to help us raise our child in a diverse environment.

We both feel we have a lot to offer a child and this is an exciting step for us.  We are eager for the day that we can brighten our home with a new addition!

Fun facts

Carl
  • Carl enjoys giving back so he has been doing community service since high school. His most humbling experience was going on a mission trip to build houses in Peru.  While there, Peru had their level 8 earthquake, and it destroyed everything they were trying to complete. Carl and the other volunteers helped raise funds quickly to restart their effort, and they were able to complete 3 homes and 1 playground.
  • Carl enjoys traveling; both internationally and domestically, and the longest trip he’s ever taken was spending 6 months in China attending a University and traveling around. Carl went to college in Minnesota, but took the opportunity to study abroad in China so he lived in Beijing for 4 months, and spent 2 months traveling all over China.
  • Carl enjoys spending time outdoors doing all kinds of outdoor activities like camping, biking, swimming and the list goes on, but the trip that turned camping into his passion was backpacking through the Rocky Mountains. Carl spent 9 days carrying all of his food, sleeping equipment, and everything else he needed to survive. He hiked around 12 miles a day drinking water from the streams, and rock climbing.
  • Carl enjoys relaxing at home on the couch watching a movie or TV show after work, and some of his favorite types are comedies, suspense, and sci-fi/fantasy. Some of his favorites include: Lost, Drop Dead Diva, Scandal, Criminal Minds, How to Get Away with Murder, Heroes, and Modern Family.
  • Carl enjoys spending time on the water boating and/or fishing. I don’t really know anything about fishing, and I’ve never really caught anything large enough to do anything with, but it is fun to try.  There’s something about being on the water that is just peaceful to Carl and that’s what he enjoys most about it.
Kevin
  • Kevin, like his father and grandfather before him, spends much of his time on home improvement projects.  He has built a garage, converted the attic into a bedroom, rebuilt car engines and learned to sew in order to re-upholster a boat and motor home.
  • Kevin has grown up in and around boats and loves a day out on the lake.  His family has a sailboat in San Diego that Carl and Kevin get to enjoy periodically.  He and Carl also own a small power boat of their own that they take onto small lakes and rivers to cool off in the summer.
  • Kevin loves to go camping.  He and Carl own a motor home and enjoy traveling to all sorts of new and exciting places to explore and enjoy the outdoors.  Kevin particularly enjoys sitting around a campfire in the evenings and gazing at the stars.
  • Kevin loves biking.  He and Carl always bring their bikes on camping trips as it allows them to explore a much larger area quickly.  Kevin also is fortunate enough to work close enough to their house that he can bike to work on a daily basis.  He tries to bike all year, although is forced to take the train when weather is particularly bad in the winter.
  • Kevin develops software for mobile phones and has worked in that industry since graduating from college.  He spends his work-days helping to design and build smartphones for markets around the globe.  He enjoys the challenges associated with this highly competitive and ever-changing field – and particularly enjoys the flexibility of schedule allowed by his employer.

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