Hello!  We are Ben, Jess, Riley and Cooper.  Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us.  We are a sports loving, memory making, photography obsessed, having fun with each other type of family.   We are so excited to grow our family through adoption and look forward to getting to know you!

We know that this is an unbelievably challenging and tough time for you, and we are here for you.  Please know that we will always love and respect you! We have so much love to share and can’t wait to welcome a new member to our family.  At the same time, we lovingly welcome you in whatever capacity you feel comfortable with.

"We loved you before we knew you.  Even when there was just hope for you we loved you."




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Our Path to Adoption

We have always dreamed of having three kids.  After the birth of our second son, we learned we were unable to have more biological kids, which led us down the path of adoption.  Our family is excited and has wholeheartedly embraced adoption, preferably an open adoption.  Our third child is so loved already and has two loving and protective big brothers who are ready to meet him or her!

Jess, by Ben

Jess has a wonderfully kind heart - full of empathy and love.  She’ll stop to help a stranger in need with an impromptu meal from Walgreens, or lend an arm to an elderly man across the street. She’ll do anything for her family- even if that means spoiling the boys a bit.  But don’t mistake that for being soft!  She’ll turn into a momma bear if anybody messes with her cubs!

Jess takes a lot of pride and joy in the things that define her.  Of course, the kids. Myself included.  She keeps trying to get all of us in matching sweater vests for a family photo shoot.  Jess finds such inspiration from church, which helps us stay grounded and teach about love, respect, and forgiveness.  Jess is a competitor.  From her first 5k to a half-marathon, she is always working towards a new personal best.  The finish lines are especially meaningful when the boys are there cheering her on.

Celebrating the big milestones and little victories in life are important to Jess.  From a birthday bash, to a dinner at Jason’s Deli (the boys favorite restaurant) for a great report card, to simply pausing to appreciate a “thank you”.  These are the things that fill up her cup.  

For everything she does, she also needs some time to recharge her batteries.  A good book and a hot bubble bath rejuvenate her.  Sometimes she just likes to relax and watch a Lifetime movie or a Real Housewives.  When there isn’t time to do either of those, she’s cruising Pinterest for fun idea.

Ben, by Jess

Ben is an amazing person - he has a heart of gold heart and one of the warmest, most welcoming smiles I have ever seen.

Ben does the grocery shopping (in his beloved minivan) and is the house chef.   He is also Mr. Fix-it around the house.  From fixing a leaky faucet to installing a 60 foot brick retaining wall, Ben’s got it covered.

Ben is the best dad!  He’s always willing to play - whether it means jumping on the trampoline or playing hockey with the neighborhood kids in the driveway.  Ben will spend hours building Lego creations with the boys and tells the best bedtime stories.  He even competes in Obstacle Course Races!  He’s a wonderful teacher and so patient.  Ben has such a special bond with the boys and I can’t wait to see him with our third child!

Our Family Dynamics

We are a team.  We both value each other’s feedback and viewpoints and will consult each other on big decisions, and little decisions like does a shirt goes with a pair of shoes.  We back each other up in life and in parenting.  

Riley and Cooper have a lock on keeping the house buzzing with energy and noise.  There are lots of fun toys, books, and games.  We have a swing set in the backyard and park up the street.  There’s also Legos in every room of the house.  The boys know we will be growing our family through adoption.  They are so excited - they are two of the most loving and fun kids ever.

A new baby will be welcomed with joy and happiness.  We have so much love to share and can’t wait to welcome a new member to our family.  At the same time, we hope to welcome you in whatever capacity you feel comfortable with.  We know that this is a difficult time for you.  You will always be your child’s birth mother and have a special place in our family. 

Fun facts

  • Is a mathematician, but a fun one!  As a little girl, she asked for a calculator with receipt tape so she could give everyone receipts with math problems.
  • Is an Oiselle Volée Runner and loves to run!
  • Loves celebrating holidays and birthdays - she’s best friends with St. Nick, the Tooth Fairy, and the Leprechaun's.
  • Loves photography and digital scrapbooking – we have a Family Shutterfly site and you are welcome to see as much of our life as you want!
  • Grew up in Wisconsin and loves the Green Bay Packers!
  • Has been described as the “best mom ever” by two kids and is excitedly waiting for the day she can be the “best mom ever” to a third child.
  • Has a health obsession with vegetables.  Broccoli, green beans, and cauliflower.   Every day he’s brusselin’
  • Was part of the Iowa National Championship High School Swim team.
  • Rolls in the “mani-van”.  It’s actually his vehicle of choice.
  • Became a triathlete in 2015 and is training for the USA Triathlon Sprint Nationals in August.
  • Last went for a professional haircut in 2005.  Just clippers and a mirror since then.
  • Can fix pretty much anything around the house.  Thanks to YouTube.
  • Prefers a BattleFrog obstacle course races over Tough Mudder.
  • Brews his own beer at home.  The more hops the better.

Pregnant and exploring adoption?

If you’re interested in learning about adoption for your baby, we can help. We’re available 24/7. All of your information is confidential.

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