Timeframes in adoption are difficult to predict and vary from family to family. Timeframes will be dependent on the program and country you choose, and we can offer no guaranteed placement date. Some of the timing in the process is under your control as an adoptive parent. How motivated & available you are, how quickly you get paperwork back to us and how flexible you are in your request for a child all will impact your timeframe in adoption.
Fees cover a range of services to all members of the adoption circle (birthparents, adoptive parents as well as adopted individuals). We are thoroughly preparing you as adoptive parents for this experience through counseling and education. Birthparents services include counseling, medical expenses and nursery care. We also provide extensive educational and outreach services to the professional community to ensure that they give their clients and patients accurate information about the option of adoption.
Many hear about us by reputation. After 14,000 adoptions someone usually knows someone who has been involved with The Cradle. We advertise on TV, online, local newspapers and in the Yellow Pages to create awareness of our services in the community. And we also have Community Outreach Workers who visit clinics, hospitals and doctor's offices to spread the word about The Cradle and educate health care professionals on adoption practices. Others learn about The Cradle through adoptive parent networking -- some expectant parents feel more comfortable considering adoption if they can consider a specific family. We will encourage you, and educate you about the power of networking.
The average age for our adoptive parents across programs is 40. There are lots of factors that birthparents consider when thinking about the family they'd like to place with. Age can sometimes be a factor.
In the past few years, we've placed many children with same-gender and single parents. Expectant parents choose a family on their own personal set of criteria; realistically some will probably not be interested in a same-gender or single placement for their child. However, we have experience that some will not only consider but prefer a same-gender or single parent family for their baby.
Each adopting family has an opportunity to describe in detail the kind of child they are hoping to adopt. Adoptive parents will be very specific in their request for a child by talking with their counselor about things like ethnicity, health risks in the baby, family background history, etc. Expectant parents will also be given the opportunity to consider an ideal situation for the child they are planning for. We will limit the amount of profiles we show based on your criteria and their criteria matching.
The specifics of an open adoption is different for every family. We ask that together with your child's birthparents you develop an ongoing plan that you are both comfortable with. The open relationship is going to be different for every situation and will depend on what you are looking for in that relationship as well as what the birthparents are looking for.
It is our experience that open relationships may gradually develop into something different than originally planned. Generally, adoptive parents look for more contact as time goes by than do the birthparents. Most of our adoptive parents recognize the benefits that the relationship offers to their child and they look for continued contact. Initially most birthparents want the security that the decision they made was the right one for their child. As time goes by, however, they are able to put closure on that decision, knowing that their child is being raised in a safe and healthy environment; so they may not seek out contact as frequently as they did in the first year or two after placement.
Whenever possible we provide counseling services for fathers considering placement of a child during the process --- just as we counsel the mother. There are specific procedures established to ensure a legal adoption is possible in situations where a birthfather is unknown or unavailable. You may click here to read more about birthfathers; and you may wish to consult an adoption attorney with specific questions.
To find out more about adoptive parents rights and responsibilites in Illinois click here.
We do not have a minimum income requirement for our adoptive parents. We do need assurances that all of our adoptive parents can provide for their child and afford the adoption process. Our expectation is that you have realistically considered the expenses involved in parenting, including things like child care, health care, food, clothing or change of income if one parent stays at home after your child arrives.
All families will be asked to complete a detailed budget describing their expenses, assets and liabilities. We feel this is important because studies show that arguments over the stress of finances are the leading cause of marital strife and we would not want the addition of a child to cause financial hardship. If we have a concern about your financial stability, we will talk to you about it as early in the process as we can.
DCFS licensure requires that parents planning to adopt be stable, law abiding, responsible, individuals, free from active alcohol or substance dependency. As part of a home study by The Cradle, we assess for those qualities and specifically ask about arrest/conviction histories. There are some crimes which automatically prevent people from being licensed (refer to this website for details: http://www.state.il.us/dcfs/docs/ocfp/rules/rules_402.pdf Part 402 Appendix A)
For less serious offenses, it is important to let your counselor know as early as you can. Most of the time it won’t interfere with your adoption, but we will need to ask you to submit a police report and court disposition with a letter of explanation. If we have any concerns we’ll talk with you about them as early in the process as possible.