For Fathers

If you have learned that you are going to become a father, or that your baby is already born, you might be wondering what to do. You may be scared, angry, or confused.

If you and/or your baby’s mother are considering adoption, you have the right and the responsibility to take part in planning for the future of your child. We want you to learn about your options so that you can make an informed decision about the future of your child. We’re here to answer your questions. Contact us at 800-272-3534 or

If you and the mother are considering adoption you can meet can meet with a Cradle counselor to explore all options available. There is no obligation or pressure to choose adoption. If adoption is the decision, your counselor will help outline a plan that works for everyone, including the option of choosing and meeting an adoptive family and having ongoing contact after the baby is placed. To learn more click here.

No. Your Cradle counselor can meet you where you are comfortable. While our doors are always open to you, we can also meet you at a place that’s convenient to you such as a coffee shop, a library, or a restaurant. We also have offices in Hyde Park and Merrillville, Indiana available for appointments.

Nothing. The Cradle's decision-making counseling services are free.

Meeting the adoptive family is something that’s highly encouraged if that’s something you’re comfortable with. Although agreements about ongoing contact are not legally binding in the state of Illinois, adoptive families at The Cradle are committed to maintaining a relationship with their child’s birth family. Depending on your wishes, you and the birth mother can receive updates and have visits with the adoptive family together or separately.

No. If you and the mother prefer to meet with a counselor at the same time, that option is available. However, Cradle counselors are available to meet with you separately throughout the entire process.

To ensure a legally secure adoption it is best if you’re able to meet with a Cradle counselor. Meetings can be made to fit your schedule. If attending a meeting is truly not possible please speak directly with your counselor about other options.

Your counselor will talk with you about your thoughts on any potential plan, and will give you information about your legal rights and responsibilities. Additionally, you may wish to seek legal counsel.

If a parenting plan is made, your counselor will support the decision. Your counselor will talk with you about the plan and can help connect you to community resources if needed.


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