As most parents who have adopted know, the process of adopting a child is long and often challenging. But, we don’t always get to see what it’s like from a different perspective: the birth parents. We spoke to expectant parent counselors at The Cradle to learn what it is like for those who make the selfless, difficult choice to place their children.
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The Cradle often sits down to speak with birth parents about their adoption journeys. We hear about the hope, the sadness, the fears and all the complex emotions involved with placing a child for adoption. They tell us of difficult choices and difficult moments, but also of the love they have for their children and their children's adoptive parents.
Last year, Cradle staff members hosted a discussion group for birth mothers. We got to know each woman and learn about their unique adoption journey. As what typically happens when a group of amazing, intelligent women get together, important conversation flowed freely. We learned a lot from these incredible mothers, and we think you can, too.
In 2014, I walked into my position as a work-study intern for The Cradle completely new to the whole “adoption thing.” When I thought of adoption, I pictured families journeying to far-off countries to bring their children home, or young adults searching for birth parents who have been absent their whole lives. About certain aspects I wasn’t far off.
1) If I don’t answer your updates or texts, it may be because I don’t know what to say.
It is very common for adopted children to have biological siblings who are living with their birth parents. However, for some parents (adoptive and birth parents alike), talking to their children about siblings who don't live with them can seem tricky.
Like any relationship in your life, open adoption is built on trust and respect.
For adoptive and birth parents alike, the more people who are around to love and watch a child grow, the better. That’s why open adoptions can be so beneficial.
After an open adoption placement, both adoptive and birth parents may be eager to develop their relationship, but aren’t sure where to start. Not all open adoptions are the same—and that’s OK. Here’s three things you might expect in an open adoption relationship.
Facing an unplanned pregnancy is scary. Sometimes, it can help to hear from someone who has experienced what you are going through.
After an open adoption placement, both adoptive and birth parents may be eager to develop their relationship, but aren’t sure where to start. Not all open adoptions are the same—and that’s OK. Here’s five things you might expect in an open adoption relationship.
We often hear from birthparents concerned about a lack of communication with the adoptive family. Often times they are concerned because they are not receiving updates from their child’s family as often as they used to. Occasionally, a significant amount of time has gone by since the last communication.