Managing your child’s difficult behavior can be overwhelming, especially if it is a constant battle. Often when children aren’t behaving well on the outside, they aren’t feeling well on the inside. Learn to integrate playful reciprocal interactions to enhance your child’s self-esteem and sense of well-being, and therefore decrease negative behavior. Help your child feel more comfortable accepting your guidance and leadership. Move away from constant rewards and threats of punishment.
Learn practical tips such as:
- Focus on your child’s DEVELOPMENTAL AGE before you intervene. If a child is hungry, tired, sick, or overstimulated, he will act younger than what he is capable of at a better moment.
- Use LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES. Taking away TV for kicking your mom doesn’t make sense because it has nothing to do with your mom. You have to do something for your mom to make her feel better.
- If a child is acting out, it may be because she is overwhelmed and can’t control herself. This is a moment where a “TIME-IN” is warranted rather than a time-out. Instead of sending her away to be alone, sit with her, read a book, tell a story, offer a drink of water, wait with her until she feels better.
- Use TIME-OUTS sparingly. If you do use time-outs, it should be for the child to calm down/reduce stimulation/change of scenery, not as punishment. After a short time out, it’s up to the adult to get the child out of time-out and reconnect with the child so that she does not continue to feel that she is out of favor.